That is no way to live. My father worked at night from the time I was 3 years old until I was 20 years old. My mother spent a lot of sleepless nights with a handgun in her hands. We had some creepy people in our neighborhood. She was trying to protect a small child. Finally she got the police to ride by our house several times through out the night. We got a security alarm installed in years later. Our house was a rental. We couldn’t install an alarm until we bought it. We got a $500 alarm system that guards our windows and doors. Before then we had the windows painted shut, mop handles on top of the windows where they couldn’t be raised, and several locks on the doors. I had a wise man to once say “Use your fear as counselor and not a jailer.” Maybe you can just stay with someone while your husband works at night. That is what some of my friends do.

There are different types; some based on alarming doors & windows; others are movement activated. Check out your local options & costs. Consider getting a guard dog. FEAR: Learn to identify, and confront your fears: a fear confronted is a fear reduced, but a fear avoided is a fear strengthened. Some people turn their fear into anger: they become angry at themselves, for being afraid, and turn that anger on whatever the cause of it was perceived to be. I don’t regard this method as being psychologically healthy.

A selection of methods by which you can help yourself, follow: Firstly, I suggest that you take a course in self defence, Tae Kwon do, Kung Fu, and/or Karate, to teach yourself how to deal with physical fear. Read: “Feel the fear, and do it anyway”. Your library, bookstore, or amazon.com may be able to supply a copy. It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, or even an emotion, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately.

When you notice something negative, such as: “I’m never going to get over this!” or: “Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a scaredy cat?” or even: “I can’t handle this fear!”, or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of your negative mindset, from the deep, primitive, animalistic recesses of your brain, which needs to be balanced by the use of higher mental functions.

Having identified and labelled it, visualise a large red “STOP!” sign, and/or possibly a stern faced person wagging an index finger at you in a negative manner, then say to yourself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: “I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!” You may want to use either: “ruse”, “ploy”, “game”, or “trick”, instead of “tactic”. In the case of an image, visualise a large “STOP” sign, or your preferred version. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don’t regard it as being strictly necessary. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method.

“Just for today, I’ll not be afraid of anything. If my mind is clouded with nameless fears*, I’ll track them down and expose their unreality. I’ll remind myself that only I am responsible for, and in sole charge of my life. What happened yesterday need not trouble me today. Do I accept the fact that it’s in my power to make today a good one just by the way I think about it and what I do about it?”

Practice one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed, at
A variant of Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective, is on page N, of section 6, and I use it before the relaxation techniques, because I have found that it makes them quicker to employ, and more effective.

YO MAN i know what you mean yo when i was a young buck so cat came to the crip and stared muggin my people yo so i burned a cover and put it over is head he was like HAAAAA HELP ME PLASE HELP ME but he leave. so instead of shoting hime with a shotty just burn him its more fun.

There are sick people everywhere… We just have to learn how to deal with that. Best thing I can advise you is to get a guard dog and let him sleep in the house at night… A guard dog outside won´t help has much and also doesn´t become as protective of you

you are not alone… do the window/door check the same way before bed funny how we need that BIG strong man to protect us

I was the same way…minus the hand gun and shotgun next to my bed….and I bought myself a really nice big dog with a really terrifying bark. Now I sleep at night just fine.

I have two dogs and a gun. My dogs sleep with me and they tell me when they hear something outside. A dogs hearing is much more sensative than a human. Plus there is the factor that when the dogs bark that might scare a burglar away. Hope this helps

Poor thing – I actually had the same thing going on – my husband is a firefighter and works 24 hour shifts so I was always home alone. I found that having dog really helps. It keeps you company and can also alert you as well as protect you. If you can’t jump into the commitment of getting a dog – then even a cat helps- just having something else in the house with you really makes a difference. Have you tried watching movies in bed? That can help to relax you. Good luck!

Bar the windors. Grille the doors.
And your husband is a meanieface for leaving you to deal with your paranoia by yourself.

I sleep with the tv on when my boyfriends at work. (Works nights.)

Another thing rather then spending money on security systems is…take your handgun and walk around your house…yeah youll get scared shitless…but after that being locked up in the house wont seem NEARLY as scary!